Request I received: Could you make a guide on how to make shy characters more social? Like starter posts they could realistically make without getting out of character?
The guide under the read more is: How to write starters as a shy character and make them more sociable.
First things first, to be a shy character it does not mean that the character is completely introverted or has no social skills what so ever. I have seen in many role plays shy characters being portrayed as individuals who have never once spoke to someone outside of their family, stutter, act like they do not know how to speak, and tend to drop off conversations. This is not how you play a shy character or even an individual. I am a shy individual, it just means I am quieter then most individuals, I do not try and be in everyone’s face nor am I loud.
A shy character or individual is just someone who doesn’t seek attention and is more of a listener, but can still talk to others, they may just not be the first ones to strike up a conversation with someone or introduce themselves right away. I know from experience that when I was just starting high school one of the things I had to do was try and not be shy and how I did that was by finding a common ground, which is exactly what a shy character can do. If you are reading over character postings on the dash and you find one that is relatable to your character, for example one character, I’ll call him Bob, starts talking about cars, your character if they have a thing for cars and are knowledgable about the subject can chime in with a remark. Perhaps it is about to the model, build, engine, etc. Having that form of a stepping stool is a great way to have you “shy” character interact with others.
When playing a shy character don’t let that be a negative. A lot of role plays state that as a negative and to be honest I hate how it is a negative. So someone is shy, so what if they aren’t one of those individuals who are loud or obnoxious or want attention, it doesn’t mean it is a bad thing. While I will say from personal experience it can be a little hindering in some situations it doesn’t mean it will cause your downfall or be this unimaginable bad thing in your life. People can outgrow being shy or they can still be shy, but it turns more into a reserved quality where they have their own morals, grounds, and tend to do things that make them comfortable. That is also an aspect with being a shy character, being comfortable. In most situations someone might be shy because they are not comfortable with what is going on around them and don’t want to partake in the event, action, or whatever the scenario is. Just remember that when playing this kind of character.
To get back on the subject of creating starter posts that fit to the structure of the character my go to starters are always:
- talk about what your character is into
- what they like/ what they don’t
- what makes them happy.
- generalized post
You cannot go wrong with creating a starter post involving any of the four points above. Shy characters have their own opinions, mindsets, interests, hobbies, so on and so forth. For the first one, if your character is into reading have them talk about a book they just read or a movie or a television show. Have them talk about how they loved the imagery in any of those things or another aspect. They can talk about how they don’t like it or anything else that comes to your mind. These kinds of things are a good stepping stone for another individual to comment on it and allow for you to talk as the character would.
For the second the point it is really the same as the first, but a little more opinionated. Sometimes you may be faced with another role player in character asking your character why they like this or that or don’t like something. You have to make sure you can give an answer to them and you do not have to shy away from giving an answer. Don’t feel limited when playing a shy character and feel as if you can’t state their opinion on a matter or that you shouldn’t do so. Those mindsets are terrible to have when trying to play a shy character and should be avoided. Just make sure you are not shoving their opinion down other’s throats because that would be out of character and is more forceful then what a shy individual can be known to do.
For the third, what makes them happy, talk about anything. It can be animals, the wearer, food, or anything else. Just talk. Now for the last one it would be more generalized. If you are in a school setting you can talk about the school, all the things involved there, or about the weather, or politics, or anything else that is such a general topic that anyone can reply back to you. General is always a great one to go to if you are having trouble coming up with something.
Besides those four topic starters if you want a shy character to be more social do it in steps. Not all individuals can change themselves overnight. I know from first hand experience being shy sticks around with you. You may not be as shy as you once were 1-20+ years ago, but there is always that small part of you that can still act shy or feel like you did back then. If you want your character to be sociable, but them in events. Slowly take them out of their comfort zone and do it with small things. Have them set a goal for themselves to meet five new people, maybe have them speak up in class for the first time, or you can have them join a sports team or club to meet new people and be involved in their hobby or interest with others. Shy characters seem to be stereotyped as being the worst characters to play because you “can’t talk to anyone or have character development or plots”. That stereotype is, excuse my french, bull shit. Shy characters, like any others, grow and change as you play them and as they age. Shy characters are one of the best to play because they are dynamic and not static characters. They constantly change and grow as an individual and having plots with them is great because maybe your character is the one to push them outside of their comfort zone whether it is by force or by helping them as a friend. Or maybe something else that you and another role player decide happens to them, but remember to never rush it. In real life most big events are not rushed so remember that when playing a shy character.
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